Secret Admirer Mixer

1. Choose your role

You’ll join four virtual participants on your side and five on the other side. Everyone secretly scores everyone else. The algorithm tries to find the most mutually agreeable matches.


Imagine: a mixer event for singles, between a sorority and a fraternity or similar.

The goal is:

  • each member of each group gets to record a ranking of their desired pairings after familiarization
  • this ranking might be individually input secretly into a computer terminal
  • the goal is to match everyone with a most desirable pairing for the event: a group win.

What considerations in the algorithm and a model event?

  • nobody must feel favored or more desired. The entrant should never know how preferred she was. Participants can also keep this secret.
  • (not demonstrated) an excess number of one group over another means a triplet, not a lonely soul. Those receiving two escorts are never selected by their ranking or choice. Mismatch in desirablity levels between two suitors is avoided.
  • rankings by the most or least desired individuals are not given proposer-side advantage.

The fun is that "the algorithm" has matched everyone up, and nobody knows if they are on a date with someone who is their top secret admirer.

You are now a virtual attendee!